We always have a time for the story of a person who broke his heart. We listen to the cries and rants about his pain. We defy the story, because we could hear the sobs and see the tears of a broken heart. We always know how a broken-hearted person feels like. In one way or another, we strongly believe that anybody should not feel that way.
But how about the story of the heartbreaker? Could it be a happy one? Does he/she laughs out loud because he/she made a soul cry? Broke somebody else's heart? Definitely not. Personally, breaking someone's heart is the most painful thing that could happen in one's life. It is so hard to see someone bleeding because he thinks you are his happiness, loves you but you could not love back. It's so painful to know that there's this one person who believes that you could change his life, but you just could not repay back just because your heart beats the other way around. It's sad, just how painful reality bites....But after all, the most liberating feeling is to tell the truth before the damage would worsen.
These past few days, I have been in hearing a lot of boy talks since my shiftmates were all boys most of the time. Sometimes, it's hard to be in the midst of the talks you just could not relate. However, what I did not come to realize is that, it's sometimes healthy to listen to a heart of a man. There were a lot of questions that have been answered. Queries that I most likely would like to hear from someone I like, but I just could not dare to ask.
Then the untold stories woke me up from the realities I failed to realize.
Well, for a girl like me, which I bet almost all girls would agree, it has always been a no-no to show a guy what you really feel, not until when he told you so. We, girls would always want an assurance, so we won't be labeled as "assuming". But on the other side of the story, guys do think the other way around. As much as girls try to hide their feelings, it also pushes away a guy, fearing that he might get rejected. I had this guy friend who told me that he fears "rejection" so much. He said, "kung d nagpapakita ng kahit konting motibo yung girl. D nako tumutuloy. Hindi nmn sa sigurista ako. Ayoko lang magmukha akong tanga." At first, I came arguing with him. I told him that a guy could never gain anything without the guts! As much as I wanna win the conversation, I got bombarded with 3 opinions (all were from a guy's point of view). So then I thought, maybe "all guys are just merely scared of rejection-that is, coming from a girl they really like/love.
So what if you really don't like someone? How could you tell him in the nicest way? Or....is there even a good thing on rejecting someone? Definitely, no! It hurts, I know. but on the part of the "heartbreaker", do you think it's as easy as saying NO?! Of course not!
As much as we would not want to hurt anybody, things just happen unexpectedly. Just as much as we must learn and accept to be fooled by guys, they should also learn how to accept rejection. On the part of the girl, "mas magmumukha bang tanga pag nabasted ka? O pag sinagot mo na at niloloko mo lang pala?"
I must admit that they had a point. They told me that at the end of the day, "boys will be boys", but they will always end up to the one they truly love. Well, I must say that, "girls will be girls and we are most vulnerable of getting hurt that rejection is the finest way to protect ourselves, but in the wisest decision we should have....
For the guys,
There's nothing wrong with telling someone what you really feel---REGARDLESS!
For the girls,
I think there's nothing wrong of showing a little bit of your feelings if you really love him----REGARDLESS!
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